By the Waters of Babylon – Ps 137:1
For anyone who wants to grow spiritually, I highly recommend anything written by Clive Staples (C.S.) Lewis. Lewis’ is a real story of Christian growth – from his university atheism, through several life tragedies, through to real spiritual leadership in the Church of England. I would recommend anything by Lewis but especially recommend Mere Christianity. Here is a piece from Lewis’ Mere Christianity about Love.
The rule for all of us is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you “love” your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone you will presently come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more. If you do him a good turn, not to please God and obey the law of charity, but to show him what a fine, forgiving chap you are, and to put him into your debt and then sit down to wait for his gratitude, you will probably be disappointed. (People are not fools; they have a very quick eye for anything like showing off or patronage). But whenever we do good to another self, just because it is a self-made (like us) by God, and desiring it .sown happiness as we desire ours, we shall have learned to love it a little more or, at first. to dislike it less.